Wednesday, May 27, 2009

A Dream

Love and Marriage are perhaps the most important milestones in anybody's life. I don’t know whether I am the right person to describe about this. But here's my take.

Well I have never been in love but I have a lot of affinity towards writing about Love and Marriage. I think I am a quixotic sometimes, expecting things that are out of this world. Impractical romantic ideals! But this is me. I am a Dreamer.

Love is something that cannot be defined. It seems like a beautiful feeling. An overflow of emotions. Inexplorable feelings surround you. Life becomes bright and shiny. Life turns around, and all you have to do is welcome it with open arms.
The first step before you fall in love is to contemplate whether the person is compatible with you. When do we actually know whether he/she is the right person? Do stars start sparkling? Does an aura appear? Do we feel a different atmosphere? Or is it that your heart tells you that this person is the one for you? I reckon it is the last one. My heart has always been there for me. I have always been warned by it when I am doing a potentially big mistake; for sure, I know the best thing to do is to follow our hearts.

We all need a partner at some point in our lives. But that person has to stick around, even though I am having a bad hair day or I am stinking like a pig; even if I am overreacting about him talking to a girl, or irritated because of my hormones. I want to be needed by him just the way I need him. I should get those positive vibes from him.

The main ingredient for the right relationship is to first look out for one right person, mutually fall in love, get committed and look out for that never dying spark. Crushes and infatuation don’t have this spark forever. But love has it. If you have found that spark for months together, trust me, its love.

You feel like you are the most beautiful girl when he praises you. You await his presence; you never get bored of him even though you have nothing to talk. You feel that the he is the best among everybody, the most good looking;
Your heart skips a beat when he comes near you. You feel like everything around should dissolve at that particular moment. I feel a relationship works out with little things like a surprise hug from behind, gifts for no occasion whatsoever, comforting words when you are all stressed out, holding your hand and assuring you his secured presence, acknowledging his love for you, reciprocating back in a better way, making you laugh till your stomach hurts etc.

The thing about marriage is it is something that has to happen on its own. If you have some dream or a goal in your mind, you work towards it and make sure that you succeed in it. But marriage is something that has to happen on its own. After we are married there has to be equal efforts from both the sides to make it a success. Same goes for the relationship as well. I feel girls are more insecured about their future when compared to guys. A guy always say 'I will take care of her' but a girl always says 'Will he take care of me'.

I feel initial troubles spell future success. God wants me to get the best and so he wants me to wait..Patiently...I am happy to wait. I am neither lonely nor desperate. I just feel the need, but I am ready to wait. This might seem like I am some starry eyed stupid dumbo, but like I said before, this is me. To hell with all those dreams which never got fulfilled all these years.

Call me a fake, hypocrite, anything you want... I don’t want to listen to you because my closed ones know what I am; and this sentence, I just keep stressing it in every blog. This is only to satisfy myself that I should not be bothered about what other losers are talking about me. Three cheers to all those who have found love and to all those who respect girls and never force them or influence them to accept your love. In the end, it’s all destiny, if he’s written in your fate no matter what happens you get him.

If I lay low,
Would you wake up and watch over me..
If I am crying,
Will you make me lean on your shoulders..
If I am old and weak,
Would you carry me all around..
If I promise you my love,
Will you love me the same forever..

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

A guy always say 'I will take care of her' but a girl always says 'Will he take care of me'.

But unfortunately, it never happens like this. A guy always expects girl to take care of him, and girl always takes care of the guy!!! Strange, but true.... Also, only a person with a pure heart can get true love.

Nice post Sindhu!!! Keep going.... :)

rachana said...

Wonderful blog Sindhu...cheers!!Thats indeed a cute dream :)

Well I too dont agree with those 2 lines Suraj has mentioned.A guy undoubtedly WANTS to take care of the girl but its d girl who takes care of him.And also more than a girl its a guy who is always insecured about the future.He always doubts if he can really take care of the girl(ya financially) and fulfil her expectations and hence is more confused when it comes to commitments.However,things like this shd better not be generalised :)

Akhilesh said...

Oh my god .. Sind .. I LOVED this blog .. N i seriously hope u get a guy who matches ur dreams, n hope ur wait turns out to be worthy enough ..

Unknown said...

awesome blog sindhu... i still cherish those memories during C classes... full of dreams :) may god shower all the happiness on u :)

vinay p said...

Thats quite an educative post sindhu, for all the guys... to understand that its not just enough to be fashionable or financially stable to win a girl's love... Every sensible girl awaits true love from him...

And, lately its good know a dreamer in you...Keep it alive...

Cheers !!!

Sindhu said...

Thank you all :)

Venu b said...

Terrific Take!

Shubhashree N S said...

Wonderful! :)

Unknown said...

really nice...a good lesson for especially movie makers who portray love at first sight!!

Sankara said...

Nice post.. You have good thoughts..
keep rocking by writing more post..
your blog is superb..

Anonymous said...

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